
According to research by Alicia Walker, Ph.D., an assistant professor of sociology, women who cheat may experience more satisfaction with their choices than men. Dr. Walker surveyed users of Ashley Madison, a website for extramarital affairs, and found that women who cheated were more likely to feel content with their decision compared to men.
One reason for this happiness is the potential for increased desire that comes with cheating. Dr. Walker explains that women in affairs may experience a resurgence in their interest, which may have waned in long-term relationships. This phenomenon, known as “monogamy malaise,” suggests that introducing a new partner can reignite desire.
Additionally, many women believe that cheating can actually improve their marriage. They see it as a way to maintain their relationship and increase their overall happiness. Dr. Walker also found that both men and women were happier in their affairs if they engaged in activity with their partner at least twice a week.
Another factor contributing to women’s satisfaction with cheating is the opportunity to establish relationships on their own terms. Affairs allow women to set boundaries and prioritize their own needs, creating a space where they feel empowered and in control.
While Dr. Walker acknowledges that some responses may be biased by individuals justifying their behavior, she emphasizes that the reasons for cheating greatly influence the level of satisfaction experienced. Those who cheat to fulfill purely desires are more likely to be happy than those seeking emotional fulfillment.
Interestingly, the study also found that individuals were happiest when they ended unhappy relationships and started anew with a different partner.
Ultimately, the hope is that individuals in unhappy relationships can find the strength to leave and pursue happiness on their own terms.